Salisbury Press

Monday, July 22, 2019

Respectfully Yours: Son’s prom manners

Thursday, May 9, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My son will be going to the prom soon, and he asked for my help in doing everything right and being a gentleman. I thought that was very endearing, but I don’t really know what to tell him. What are some proper prom manners I can share with him?

Dear Reader,

I am thrilled your son cares and wants to make a good impression on his prom date.

Respectfully Yours: Pronounce name

Friday, May 3, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I have an unusual name and it tends to be mispronounced frequently. What is the politest way to correct someone who keeps saying your name wrong without making it awkward?

Dear Reader,

Few things are more frustrating than hearing your own name mispronounced.

There is some kind of significance in saying someone’s name to them, so it’s true that getting it wrong is significant, as well.

Respectfully Yours: Boss’s texting

Friday, April 19, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I am a grad student with a part-time job. I recently started a second part-time job working in my field. I am excited and love the opportunity to begin working in my area of expertise. I’m several weeks into the new job and am discovering my new boss will text me at all hours. He is texting me work-related problems that I feel should be discussed in person. Is it acceptable for a boss to send text messages to you about work, outside of working hours?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Charity at office

Friday, April 12, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

At my office, it seems like every time I turn around someone is asking me to participate in a fundraiser to support his or her child’s organization or a charity. I do not have a large budget for this, yet I do not want to create bad relationships at work. Can I participate in one fundraiser and not another? This is starting to get overwhelming. What is considered the most polite way to handle fundraising in the office?

Dear Reader,

It all depends on how it’s done.

Respectfully Yours: Hospitality

Friday, April 5, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I was out to dinner with my husband, and the owner of the restaurant came over to our table to talk. The owner is an old friend of my husband. I had never met him. Initially, it seemed fine but I became quickly uncomfortable. The owner stood at the center of our table and kept his back to me. He did not make any effort to acknowledge me. I sat there not sure what to do and clueless as to how to jump into the conversation. What do you do when someone does not acknowledge you?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Gracious dinner guest

Friday, March 29, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

What do you do when you don’t want to eat the food being served at somebody else’s home but don’t want to be impolite? How do you courteously refuse a meal?

Dear Reader,

When you are a dinner guest, it’s generally expected you accept whatever is placed in front of you.

Accepting an invitation to dinner is a social event. If you can’t stomach your host’s meal, it would be impolite to outright reject what’s on the table. That doesn’t mean there aren’t some loopholes that allow you to maintain a polite demeanor.

Respectfully Yours: Honor invitation

Friday, March 22, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I made the mistake of accepting an invitation to a party that I would rather not attend. I only know the host and barely anyone else. As life would happen, I was then invited to another party that I’d rather attend on the same date. How do I get out of going to the first one?

Dear Reader,

You are jeopardizing your integrity. Keep your promises, even if it takes extra effort, and do the right thing.

Respectfully Yours: Comfy casual

Friday, March 15, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My husband and I are invited to a social gathering and the host suggests “comfy casual” attire. The evening is going to be a relaxing night that includes pizza and some game-playing. My husband insists on wearing khakis and a button-down. I said comfy casual is sweatpants or maybe jeans, but definitely not khakis and a button-down. This is causing a slightly heated debate. He is not comfortable heading out to meet friends in sweats. What is the difference between casual and comfy casual attire?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Monologuing

Friday, March 8, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn, I don’t want to hurt my cousin’s feelings, but she says the same thing at least three times but in different ways. I think she wants to keep the conversation going but I find it annoying. She will tell me that someone cut her off while she was driving and then she will tell me again, but in a different way. She does not suffer from memory loss. How can I politely change the subject?

Dear Reader,