Dear Jacquelyn, My mother has always handled sending out the holiday cards. Now that I’ve moved away from home, I’m sending cards for the first time. What is the basic etiquette on sending out holiday cards? And, if someone I overlooked sends me a card, do I need to send one back?
Dear Reader, The ins and outs of holiday-card etiquette is one of those little things in life that can seem overwhelming.
Dear Jacquelyn, A couple of weeks ago I attended a baby shower for a friend. I did not know most of the people there. I found myself watching everyone and not talking. I normally am not at a loss for words with my friends and family, but in this situation I was totally out of my comfort zone. I did not want to come across as disinterested, but I felt awkward. Do you have any suggestions about how to engage in small talk?
Dear Jacquelyn, The holidays are coming at us quickly and I always get confused about whom I should be tipping who normally does not get tips during the year. Also, how much should I be tipping so that I don’t look like a Scrooge and at the same time not blow my own holiday budget?
Good for you: planning early.
Why do some people not say, “Excuse me.” or “I beg your pardon?” When I am standing in line in a supermarket or drugstore, someone will rush ahead of me to ask the clerk a question. They never say, “Excuse me.” When I go to the bank or restaurant, some people never hold the door for other folks. What is going on with this world?
Dear Reader, Phrases go in and out of style and very few people say, “Excuse me” anymore. It appears many have lost a general sense of respect toward each other and consideration is becoming extinct.
Dear Jacquelyn, I recently took a bus trip to New York City. The bus was packed and I was seated before the long line of passengers piled onto the bus. The seat next to me was available and a woman sat down next to me. As soon as the bus pulled out, I noticed she had a cough and head cold. I knew I was in for an unpleasant bus ride. I worried that I would catch her cold. Why do people travel when they are visibly sick? What do you recommend I do if this happens again?
Dear Jacquelyn, I’ve noticed for years now that people don’t bother to get dressed up to attend church services anymore. When I was a child, putting on nice Sunday clothing was expected. I know that I am not alone when I say that I grow weary of seeing people come to church in clothes that they would wear to clean out the garage. Why don’t people wear their Sunday-best to church anymore?
Leaving a voicemail message makes me uncomfortable. I don’t know what to say and how much information to leave. Many times, when I hear the dreaded recording, I just figure, I’ll try again later when they’re there. When I do muster up the courage to leave a voicemail message, I tend to stumble a bit or I feel like I’m rambling on. How much information do I really need to leave? Any tips would be appreciated.
I’m a freshman in college and this is the first time I’ve had a roommate. I’m having trouble adjusting because we have drastically different social lives and study habits. Our dorm room is small and we can’t seem to get out of each other’s way. What can I do to survive living with my roommate?
First-year college students like you have a lot on their minds: making new friends, navigating the campus, and choosing a major.
Dear Jacquelyn, My neighbor’s dog barks periodically throughout the day and it’s getting on my nerves. I don’t want to disrupt a good relationship between my neighbor and me. What can I do?
Dogs may be man’s best friend, but when your neighbor’s dog won’t stop barking, it can become a nightmare. There are some things you can do to regain peace and quiet without starting a war with your neighbor.
Give your neighbors the benefit of the doubt. There’s a possibility they don’t realize their dog is barking so much and aggravating you.
I was meeting a friend for dinner at a restaurant. I arrived at two minutes to seven for a seven o’clock reservation. At 7:20 p.m., I was into my second glass of Pinot and at half-past I got a text stating, “On the way.”
We finally were all seated at 7:45 p.m. There was not even an attempted excuse from my friend, who seemed oblivious to the fact I might actually have gotten there at the agreed-upon time. I understand that sometimes things do happen and you end up running late. How long do you wait for someone who is late to meet you?